One of the few self-help books I enjoyed
I’m not a fan of most self-help books. While I’ve started dozens over the years, I’ve only ever finished a handful.
It’s no wonder self-help books are so popular, because who of us doesn’t want to improve? In fact, that’s probably why you’re even here.
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Where most self-help books fail is in recycling the same old things in the same old ways. Yawn, I’m bored. Even though I paid 20-bucks for the book, I’m not getting past chapter 3.
When a new co-worker, Rita, suggested I read You Are a Badass by Jen Sincero, I thought, Oh, boy, here we go.
First, I hate foul language, and the title alone told me what I would find in the book. Second, it’s a self-help book. The last thing I want to do during the chaos of tax season is waste my time on a bunch of mindless dribble.
But I already know Rita is a kindred spirit. The more she told me about the book, the more interested I got.
Then Rita told me she’d listened to the audio book at least a dozen times.
I don’t know Rita very well, but I already know I can trust her not to feed me a plate of garbage. If the book was good enough for her to listen to it many times, maybe it was worth checking out.
I finished You Are a Badass yesterday. Finishing the book already gives it a rare distinction among the dozens of self-help books on my dusty shelves.
Even more, though, I plan to read it again. I was so enthralled with the stories Sincero tells that I skipped the exercises she recommends. When my life slows down again, I’ll go back through the book and give it the time it deserves.
The beauty of the book is in the way the author delivers the material, intermixing it with her own personal experiences. It feels like a conversation, like Sincero is a friend, and she’s telling you to get over yourself.
One section I loved was where she talks about the way we choose to view events in our lives. Whether positive or negative, we can choose how we see everything.
Sincero suggests that when something happens, you say the following out loud, “This is good because…” Then you should finish the sentence with either the lesson the experience taught you or the way it has improved your life.
Flipping page after page, I couldn’t help but think of a few of my failed relationships. Each ending left me devastated. I felt like a failure because I couldn’t make the relationship last.
As time passed, I could see clearly why the end of each romance was the only right decision. While I don’t regret dating any of those women, I also don’t regret that they’re no longer in my life.
Each beautiful girl taught me a lesson, either about other people or about myself. For that, I am thankful.
I’m going to incorporate This is good because… into my everyday life. Every night while journaling, I plan to review the events of the day and find at least one lesson in them.
This self-help book was worthy of my time.
Trust your gut. If you’re not getting anything of value from the book after a few chapters, push it aside. Follow the same pattern with people on social media. If they’re not improving your life, it’s time to unfollow. Sometimes even block.
My goal is always to bring you the best information so you can live a better life with mental illness. I really feel that You Are a Badass is going to help me do that, but it might not be the right book for you.
Still, I’m always going to share the good things I find with you.
Thank you for being part of the Speaking Bipolar journey.
Until next time, keep fighting.
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